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5 characteristics of a healthy relationship

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joolie Robert
5 characteristics of a healthy relationship

5 characteristics of a healthy relationship


Healthy relationships enjoy an aura of permanent happiness, constant falling in love, lack of conflicts ... However, none of this is true. In a healthy relationship, what predominates is love and not falling in love. Conflicts, that there are, are spoken. And it's not always all happiness. There are better times and worse moments.

 in love there is something crazy, but at the same time in madness there is always something right ". Is it in that something of reason where we can find the characteristics of a healthy couple relationship?


It is popularly said that when we find the beloved person we become "crazy with love". But it seems obvious that in every relationship there has to be some sanity. You can call him a healthy couple , people who understand each other, or in a thousand ways. But first of all we would say that it is possible to find the balance, or at least, some experts believe .

To make this list we will base ourselves on the theories of the Catalan psychologist. This expert in relationships considers that in order  to have a healthy relationship , the first thing to do is listen to one's own criteria . What do you need from a relationship? Can the person next to you bring it to you? Let's see.

Take responsibility for your emotional state

An important point to have a healthy relationship is that each member is responsible for their happiness . Thus, it is essential that love for the other starts with solid self-love and having a self-esteem with a good tone that reinforces the idea that we have many valuable things to contribute to the relationship.

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Remember that if you are a person who underestimates yourself, you may end up blaming or over- relying on your partner. Therefore, the relationship must be equal to equal, where both find a balance in the distribution of responsibilities.

Open communication channels to maintain balance

The second point that affects the specialist has to do with the importance of communication to establish and maintain the balance that we discussed earlier. For this, it is essential to make use of empathy and know how to open active listening channels .

It will not always be easy, but it is necessary to maintain a capacity for understanding the other person always. So, you have to understand his points of view and why he does what he does. We must be flexible and tolerant, despite not agreeing. You are on the same side and your end is common.

Practice assertiveness as the best form of sincerity

A healthy relationship will never be based on lies . This is a basic point. That is why it is necessary that both parties be sincere in the most important points of anchorage of the couple. So, if there is something that bothers you, do not keep it until you end up saturated and being the guardian of a lot of behaviors that have bothered you.

In addition, no matter how much our partner knows you, he does not know 100% what you think at all times . If you choose to give everything for your acquaintance, it is easy for many situations to lead to arguments and negative dynamics. So, however much you are blended, try to be clear when it comes to expressing yourself. Nothing happens because you are vulnerable to your partners: they are people who love you.

Another aspect of assertiveness is the way to communicate those disagreements. As María Luisa Naranjo (2008) points out in her article, when we use assertiveness to communicate we usually use reason and this means "using language, common sense and the ability to reach agreements to resolve conflict situations. The result is well-being and a self-esteem that is not harmed . "

Trust is vital

The next point that concerns us in a classic in relationships. If there is no trust between both parties, common places for both will rarely be available . It is important that you create a positive breeding ground in which you feel confident and supported and in which you feel that the other also feels that way.

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In this way you will have the confidence that each time you need to have the other person is going to respond , supporting, helping to move forward, walk and walk . In addition, the confidence will move away storms like those that bring jealousy. Think, if your partner loves you and you love her, what do you have to fear?

Live the present being realistic

If one or both members are focused on what is to come, on changing the other person or on what tomorrow will be a better husband or wife, the relationship will not have much future. A healthy couple relationship lives in the present , in the here and now. It is good to talk about the future, but without being conditioned by ideas and expectations. What exists is the present and however much we plan everything is subject to change.

In the same way that you can not live in the future, you should not do it in the past either . Virtually all couples have had problems. However, once overcome and forgiven, leave them there. Do not take them out every time there is an argument to use them in the form of a throwing weapon or reproach. If the past problems are so "serious" that we can not leave them behind and come to light every time there is tension we must rethink the relationship. Many couples say they have overcome a conflict but they continue to drag it for months, even years. There are two options: work on the problem or if it is so serious, rethink the situation .

never above you, never below you, always by your side ". So we can consider these as characteristics of a healthy couple relationship. Or at least, this is what the psychologist .

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