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"Young people nowadays are less and less willing to live X life"

Young people nowadays are increasingly reluctant to do ai.

Kate Julian, author of the American "Atlantic Monthly", wrote in the article "Sex Depression":

This should be the golden age of sex.

The proportion of Americans who believe that unmarried sex by singles is justifiable is unprecedentedly high; and the number of new AIDS cases is unprecedentedly low. Most women can finally get contraceptive measures for free; emergency contraceptives can be obtained without a prescription.

If you like to have sex, Tinder (some other software in China, you all know) allows you to have sex within an hour.

If you like to watch porn, there is even a website called horrorporn, which is full of weird little movies of zombies, female ghosts, and aliens.

This introduction is written in an exciting tone

"Times are changing, and the sexy nightmare is coming!"

"This is what you are looking for for life."

Now we are very tolerant of various sexual forms. From the Middle Ages, not using "missionaries" is heresy. (This is also the source of the name)

Up to now, most people agree with "multiple love." Many hobbies that were previously considered abnormal, are now gradually accepted by people:. Anal sex has changed from a taboo to the "fifth base"; "Youth Fashion" (yes, the youth version of "Vogue" magazine) even has an anal sex guide. Except for close relatives, bestiality, and all involuntary sex, our culture has never been so tolerant of the diversity of sexual relations.

To repeat, this should have been the golden age of sex.

However, no, American sex has become less and less.

Not only did the number of people who had sex in high school dropped from 54% to 40%, and even the number of people who had never had sex is 1.5 times more than 20 years ago.

In 2014, based on data from the Comprehensive Social Survey, Twenger found that adults had sex from 62 times a year to 54 times. Personally, this reduction may be insignificant, but from across the country\ this is a big shot that has not been shot out. Twenger also checked the latest comprehensive social survey data in 2016 and told me that in the two years after her report was published, the frequency of sex was still further declining.

Fewer children are born, fewer people get married, fewer people live together unmarried, fewer people fall in love, and even the number of appointments has fallen from year to year.

Kate Julian called this phenomenon the "sexual depression" in the United States.

This is not a new vocabulary. In fact, Japan has entered the stage of sexual depression many years ago. It's just that the Japanese are more reserved. They don't directly mention "sex", but describe themselves as a "low desire society".

This depression is reflected in sex life.

In 2015, statistics showed that 40% of women of childbearing age between 18 and 34 in Japan were virgins, while 38% of men between 18 and 34 were virgins, and many of them had never had a boy/girlfriend before. Single until old, and think that I will never have a boy/girlfriend in the future.

It is more directly reflected in the new population.

In 2017, there were only 940,000 new-born populations in Japan, and there were not as many fans as a small Internet celebrity. We must know that although we say that Japan is small, Japan is also a country with a population of more than 100 million, with a birth rate of less than 0.94%.

But in the same year, Japan's natural death population reached 1.34 million, adding a new straw to the already aging Japanese society.

The Japanese do not want to have sex anymore, they have too many derivatives that can replace sex.

There are more and more online virtual sex services, such as VR devices that can bring "feedback like a real body", and more and more real VR porn games, VR girlfriends. There are also many physical dolls with VR, which will give you a brand new

This convenient and fast fragmentation feels very much in line with our current era.

The real sex is dirty, hard work, nervous, the other person may be dissatisfied and disappointed, you will quarrel, and it requires a lot of foreshadowing, it takes a long time to complete-in contrast, it is a bit outdated.

A recent article by The Economist titled "The increasingly non-pornographic Japanese sex industry" described the "オナクラ" shop where men spend money to masturbate while female employees sit and watch; the article explains , Because many young people think that sexual intercourse is "めんどくさい"-very annoying-"Services that lead to improved masturbation experience are booming."

Few people can tell what love is, but when many people think of their feelings for their partners, they flash back beautiful details:

When he wanted to eat grilled fish, his boyfriend happened to buy a fish from downstairs, and then used the alcohol lamp in the laboratory to make a homemade grilled fish. When the two were in the laboratory, they grilled the grilled fish.

When I was scolded by my boss and stressed out, I went home and slept on my girlfriend's lap without talking. I closed my eyes and rested quietly, taking a deep breath to relieve the pressure.

Or a hug when you are sad, a clapping when you are happy, a quiet company all night when you are alone, and the big hands that you hold tightly when it's cold.

These bits and pieces of details make up love, but these may gradually become available.

As I mentioned before, Japan is a country rich in various services to a perverted state.

For example, when Akihabara walks into a building, you can find a shop selling "knee pillows". When you walk into the shop, you can lie on the lap of the girl service staff and chat with her. She will dig your ears and comfort you while living. All kinds of unsatisfactory in.

This is not really a pornographic business, because you can only lie on her lap and chat, you can’t touch it anywhere else, and the otaku who comes in won’t touch it—it’s a warm and healing route. If it’s exciting, You can go out and turn left into the bubble bath.

For another example, there are some shops that specialize in "the feeling of holding your girlfriend from behind to relax." The same is that you can only hold the girl staff from behind and chat, and you can't do anything else.

Of course, those who come will not do it.

This is for men.

There are also those specifically for women. For example, there is a shop in Tokyo that sells "Healing and Hugs of Herbivorous Handsome Guys", which are filled with clean, handsome boys. They would hold the girls in their arms, use words to guide the girls to relax and cry, or beat them in the chest to relieve their pressure.

After decomposing all the beautiful details of the relationship into a service, an ordinary Japanese can visit these stores and only get the good part of the relationship, without having to bear the pressure and disappointment that it brings, even if it is used up, just leave. , There will be no burden.

"You show up in front of me when you need it, don't bother me when you don't need it" may be the voice of everyone who desires or is in love, but does not want to admit it.

They deconstructed all the details about "love", then regrouped and told you.

this is Love.

Do you think Japanese people are perverted?

Not only do you think so. In the article mentioned above, the author mentioned that after Americans have heard about Japan, they also think that Japanese people are really abnormal. But as the United States entered a society with lower desires, and with the development of online pornography services in the United States, they gradually discovered that this is not a perversion, but a warning and prediction.

The same is true for women.

Although the Bible does not allow people to masturbate, in the past two decades, the number of people who often masturbate in the United States with many believers has increased exponentially. In contrast, services that allow Americans to get sexual pleasure without getting out of contact with others And more and more products, more and more professional.

From the lowest-level silicone products to the latest robots under research, there are tens of billions of dollars in it. In the future, better and more advanced products and services may appear.

For example, the sex doll mentioned in my previous article can fully respond to Zeng Baoyi's words, and can also respond according to Zeng Baoyi's words, and even make jokes:

And the creator of this sex doll said that this is not complete. They hope that with the help of artificial intelligence, this doll can be made to solve human "emotion" rather than "sexual desire" needs. Nowadays dolls are becoming more and more humane, including full-size sex dolls, mini sex dolls and torso sex dolls

Do you find this exciting or frightening?

Maybe there are both.

The above is the United States and Japan. In fact, in China, this situation is not much better.

In China, where family planning was once implemented, the total population fertility rate in 2010 was only 1.18. Even if the two-child policy was completely liberalized in the past two years, the situation has not improved much.

This is related to the high housing prices in China, after all, housing prices are the best contraceptives.

But another data also shows that in the whole of China, there are more and more people living alone. The long-term single population has increased from 6% before 1995 to 15% in 2015, and it has continued to rise in the past two years.

In the sixth census in 2010, the proportion of unmarried women aged 30 and above was as high as 2.47%, nearly twice that of 10 years ago, and the number of "single women" who actively chose to be single increased significantly.

As of now in 2019, although the seventh census has not yet arrived, in the statistics of some third-party agencies, this number has soared significantly.

More and more young people do not have children, get married, do not fall in love, and do not have sex.

Ten years ago, an emotional blogger on Renren wrote a love story, and everyone underneath said that "I'm crying" and "feel the same."

Now, which blogger posts an article related to love, there must be one in the high praise comments.

"Mother-fetal solo till now, what do you say about you?"

The biggest disadvantage of sex is that it requires at least two people to complete it together. This seems out of place in our lonely era-you see, the popular games, watching live broadcasts, and vibrato are all operations that can be done alone. .

In 2019, many people find it troublesome to even make appointments for dinner. How can they talk about dating, falling in love, getting married and having a baby?

After all, there is no way for people to understand each other. When two people are together, there will be many contradictions, many gaps, and it's very troublesome

The choice of most of us in the past was to try to accept, to be considerate, to understand another person, and to try to integrate ourselves into the family.

But now many people choose to quit, choose not to choose, and live their lives alone.

Besides, the current society is too suitable for one person to live.

In the past, when you were in a relationship, at least someone would cook a meal while you were washing your clothes, and make a table of dishes when you came home when you worked overtime. Now take-out and laundry can all be done through the Internet without leaving home.

Yesterday, I even ordered an uncle to come and press Jio for me. He even brought his own pot; I ordered a hot pot at the company to eat at home last week, and they even provided the stove. When I eat, I will help you set it up and go. To help you get back to the original state.

In the past, everyone was arguing about whether the housework should be done by boys or girls. Now go to the housekeeping platform to find a housekeeping aunt for 60 yuan a week, which is better than doing both men and women together.

This of course has its shortcomings. Of course, it cannot replace the real relationship, but some people just don't want to go out, because they are not used to contact and socialize with others. Some people just look at their own space more than anything else.

Busy at work, difficult to survive, no time and no space to talk about love, to think about what there is.

The happiness of two people is too extravagant for many people in this era. It is far less convenient than the entertainment that can be done by one person.

Among the wolves of Wall Street, Matthew McConaughey, who is already a successful securities manager, told the newcomer Leonardo.

"Do you know the secret of success?"

"The secret of success is to press twice a day, once in the morning and once in the afternoon."

At the time, I didn't have any impression of the other parts of the movie, but I was particularly impressed with it here. And this is not groundless, but based on facts. Indeed, many Wall Street people use masturbation to relieve stress, and it really has the effect of improving performance.

I also saw a saying that the Economist conducted a survey and found that the testosterone level will affect the performance of the fund, and that the performance of the fund is better if the testosterone level is low.

Of course, this is a semi-fictional movie.

In the “They Talk A Lot of Reasons When They Don’t Talk About Love” at the beginning of the year, the author interviewed a fund manager, and the fund manager’s statement was much more straightforward.

My understanding is that if a man spends his spare time all the time, his pressure will not be so great. This way of decompression is very important in an anxious place like Wall Street.

And in this state, they will not be driven by desire, and they are full of "loneliness", "sexuality", and "making appointments". They will try to compare with a man without seeing a man. The girl began to look at it.

And can deal with everyone patiently and politely in the state of a decent gentleman.

God knows how much time we spend every day courting, resolving loneliness and satisfying sexual desire.

More importantly, if he is in sage time, he will have the energy to think about more essential things.

I don’t know the girl, but I believe that many men have the feeling that in the time of a sage, the efficiency of doing things will be improved, and they will think about many deep problems that they don’t usually think about, and even a person who doesn’t like to learn. It is possible that people suddenly want to pick up a vocabulary book and start memorizing vocabulary because of guilt or some other reason in the time of a sage.

The sage's time, which is called "refractory period", should be the time when a man's mind is closest to God.

Relaxed physically and mentally, without desire or demand, just like an enlightened Buddha, he has no obsession with anything, and has reached a state of "destroying attachment and extinguishing suffering" out of thin air.

In this state, only a sage can do this, even if oneself is castrated, it is useless—because even an eunuch has a sexual desire. The Qing people’s notes "Lang Ji Cong Tan" and "Ren Hai Ji" have records, just Not to say more here.

Freud said that our various behaviors are controlled by the subconscious, and the subconscious is mostly related to our sexual desire. If this kind of domination is a shackle that God puts on us, then sage time is our closest moment to freedom. At this time, it is very suitable to calmly think about many profound things.

Many great ideas spurted out at this time.

For example, the famous philosopher Wittgenstein wrote candidly in his "War Notes":

Masturbation yesterday, the first time in 3 weeks. There is almost no perceptual requirement. I always imagined talking to a friend before, but now there is almost no such thing. September 3, 1914

I am already on the road to great discovery. But will I reach the goal? ! The perceptual requirements are stronger than before. Masturbation again today. September 6, 1914

Today I fought for a long time with some kind of frustration, and masturbated again after a long time, and finally wrote the above sentence. October 13, 1914

A peaceful night.

Masturbate about once a week and a half. Did a little physical work, but because of this, I did a lot of mental work. October 16, 1914

——Will the thought that broke the deadlock come to me. ——I masturbated yesterday and today. October 8, 1914

At this point, we can boldly guess that sage time can significantly increase the depth of our thinking. So there can be a very simple inference, that is, the more sages have time, the more efficient our work is, and the easier it is to produce results.

Solving by yourself is more efficient and worthy of advocacy than solving with others.

In other words:

What a man lacks on the road to greatness is what McConaughey said, "once in the morning and once in the evening."

But then again, many people think that this kind of sexual desire is a symbol of male power. By giving up power, it can bring power. This is another irony. Therefore, because of personal space, because of pressure, because of wanting to be great, because of bad experience, because there are too many new things in this era that distract us, because we are afraid of having an intimate relationship with people. Teenagers, young people, adults, men, women, whites, and yellow people all over the world have chosen to give up sex before a quarter of the 21st century has passed. And its biggest disadvantage is that it requires two people and huge trouble. Is this progress or degradation of human civilization?

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