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Archie Heron
Where do you get it from?

Come on, tell me, why are you so optimistic about yourself? I sometimes hear such questions when I talk or write something optimistic, with conviction, with faith in success. Where can I get that from?

I, who for most of his life has seen in life all the difficulties, obstacles, walls that can't be jumped over, difficulties in dealing with any matter? So where does this change come from?

Enough! I said to myself: Enough! If I had been focusing all the time on problems, problems in which I am "objectively" stuck in my ears, I don't know if I would still be writing this... .

I'm not making a hero of myself at this point. I'm not making a hero of myself. I'm just doing my best to really be. Someone just asked me what it means to really be. I can only write what it means to me. I'm trying to make myself feel good about myself, to feel good about myself. It's not about achieving some imaginary perfection, because I don't think they exist, but that I don't have to look for food every day to feel better.

That I would feel good with myself as I am, without change, without others, without expectations, without good things in life, without a fairy tale prince, without... . Quite simply, I want to notice myself. It's not narcissism, self-loathing. It's a way to forget about yourself. Because who do I really think about most when I help others, when I sacrifice myself for others? If I think only about others and it only brings me joy and happiness, it's a sign that I'm not a cannibal.

It's a sign that I don't feed my sense of value to charity, however it may look. Some people help others to feel better in their eyes and in the eyes of other people. But this is not selfless help. It's a barter. I give something, I get something, or I don't, and then regret, resentment, frustration is born.

To be and live really is to love others without thinking about it. If I do something with passion, with a natural desire to do it, I don't think about what I will get out of it. I'm not always looking for proof of gratitude.

It's hard to explain, especially since I've only experienced this condition a few times in my life and it's not a present moment. But if I manage to jump into this state of BEING again, I know that joy will be 24 hours good. From where? Just because I'm alive. It's a cliché, and yet you can enjoy it. Provided we stop taking this state for granted. I'm alive, but what a life. I've heard it many times. Stop complaining about your life. How?

Start learning about the lives of others and help them find something good in their lives, often as difficult as yours. The moment you stop focusing on your misfortune and start lifting others out of the ground, it gets brighter.

I can't explain it, but it is my way of being optimistic and cheerful. I look for what can be good in life, and I do not focus on tears and all the curses of this world. It may be just one candle, but thanks to it, I can help someone else light his own, and then... It will be two candles:) and much brighter in the life of two people. I don't need other people's candles at this point, because I know that I have mine.

Maybe it's not a perfect candle, maybe a little bit bent by the turmoil of life, but when I stop complaining about it and start to appreciate it as it is, then I can focus on passing on the light. My candle won't lose its brightness when I let someone else fire mine. There can only be more light. There can only be more.

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